How Tricia Handled Her Anger

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I have been blessed with five wonderful children, but with the birth of each child, my fuse has grown shorter. All of the spilled milk, overflowing trash cans and stray shoes can make me see red! Sometimes after a long day of frustrations I would be angry; at other times the morning started on the wrong foot and a single setback could leave me fuming! This is where Dr. Oz, Dr. Varma and the anger diet came to help. I learned to sandwich my feelings. Maybe telling my husband the good, the bad then the better could get the trash taken out more often? Maybe not; I was skeptical. A recurrent hothead moment is getting the kids to pick up all the random clothes they leave around the house. So when I saw my son had stashed his whole school uniform on the floor in front of the fireplace I asked him nicely to take it to the laundry room. Well, minutes later it was still there, I tried the sandwich. “Robert, I know you are so smart but it makes me sad when you leave your things around and I have to beg you to put them where they belong. Maybe you could show me your thoughtfulness by taking care of this.” I walked away, busy with other tasks and came back in the room expecting to full-throttle yell this uniform into place, when to my shock it was missing: He had taken the pieces to the washer! Maybe it was the trans fats I had abstained from, but I never raised my voice or lost my temper during this typically infuriating process. I have included the picture of clear living room floor for evidence.

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Part of preventing outbursts or high-blood pressure moments is starting with an anger cleanse, and that’s what I am still finding to be a real challenge. I have an 11-month-old that doesn’t want me getting the eight hours of sleep required, not much of a surprise there. However, I could see how a week of nights with a solid eight hours of sleep could do wonders for my temper. So I am trying harder to get to bed earlier so if the baby decides to wake at 5 a.m. and maybe my 5-year-old gets sick at 1 a.m., like last night, I can still feel rested. Now how about an hour a day for time to myself?! Any moms out there manage this every day? Dr. Varma suggested I try increments of 15 minutes at a time to reach the full hour of alone time a day. That is still hard. Given work, meals, chores, homework and trying to have quality time with the kids I know I would be a better mom with some ‘me’ time, but on most Mondays, for example, that is tough to schedule. When I do get a chance to get my hair or nails done or attend book club, then I know what she is talking about. That buffer helps those everyday annoyances not make me as angry easily. However, the beneficial side effects of personal time can be forgotten if I walk home to crying babies and a sink full of dishes. So Dr. Varma validated that I, like so many other women, have so many great things my plate that sometimes a short fuse is inevitable. I can definitely work on trying to set a better example for my kids as to how to handle anger and frustrating experiences and of course these darlings are always giving chances to practice keeping my cool.

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A very fortunate side effect of this experience is that I am sharing more jokes and fun moments with the kids. When I can keep my cool, because I had some free time to decompress, the kids don’t feel like they have to keep their distance from angry mom. What continues the cycle is that the kids want to cooperate because I didn’t yell at them or flip out at some annoying setback in our day.

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