Ladies, on the off chance that your significant other is frantically looking for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift, make it easy and forward this on.
Okay, guys, you’ve been there: a beautiful romantic evening, passion and expectation leading to nakedness (yes!) and an attempt at intercourse, only to find that what seems to be interest and eagerness results in the realization that nothing, no how, no way, is going in there. Or even worse, you do enter, but instead of cries of delight you hear, “Ow, Ow, please stop!”
I’ve written about vaginal dryness before and have talked about lubes, moisturizers and other solutions. But what I haven’t talked about is that it isn’t necessarily the woman who should be supplying these things.
The key to being the most popular guy on the block – or at least in your house – is simple. Give her a gift of being prepared with the slippery stuff instead of waiting for her to get it. Will she be upset? Are you kidding? She will be ecstatic that you have taken matters into your own hands, and you still find her so sexy that you are dying to make mad, passionate love to her. You don’t need to have a discussion or get her permission. I’m giving you permission.
Guys, it’s time to go shopping.
How to Choose a Lubricant
The world of lubes is confusing, and there are a lot of products out there. You will see shelves of vaginal lubricants that warm up, light up and come with a theme song. Your first impulse will be to grab the bottle at the very end of the aisle, while also stocking up on shampoo and deodorant to hide the fact that vaginal lubricant is the only thing on your list. But take some time with your decision, because this is an important one.
I am a fan of silicone lubricants since they tend to be the most slippery, longest lasting and least irritating. (Just make sure if you’re using condoms, you’re using a water-based lubricant instead of a silicone one, as silicone lubricants can cause the condom to break.) You no longer need to put on a disguise and visit an erotica shop, as fabulous silicone lubes are available in the corner drugstore. They’re a little pricier than water-based lubes, but well worth it. Just as the woman in your life prefers Chanel No. 5 to the $4 perfume from the drugstore, she’ll recognize a good lube. You get what you pay for. Wrap it up with a beautiful bow, throw in a few candles, a gorgeous nightgown and a copy of my book, Sex Rx: Hormones, Health and Your Best Sex Ever.
Don’t wait until you are in the middle of having sandpaper sex to whip out the lube. Store it in a handy place, like under the bed. You don’t want to have to go on the hunt. As soon as you get an erection, apply the lube all over your penis (it will feel good!). Bonus: she will be happy to help. Use your fingers to apply the lube to the outside of her vagina. No need to put it inside, your penis will take care of that.
You will be amazed at the difference. Not only will you make things more slippery, she will be in awe that you thought of it, supplied it and knew what to do with it. Nothing makes a woman hotter than being with a sweet, sensitive man who can ensure that sex is pleasurable instead of painful. That kind of confidence and consideration will translate to a better sex life – and a better relationship.
This is one Valentine’s Day secret that is too good to keep to yourself. Spread the word to your guy friends. Their wives and girlfriends will thank you. One word of caution: This may not be the gift that you want her to tell her co-workers about on Monday morning, so you may still need to spring for a little jewelry.
Happy Valentine’s Day!